You are not alone!
Are you starting to notice changes in your aging parents? New dents and dings in your aging parent’s car? Your dad who never forgets a thing is starting to forget simple things? Your mom who spent her life making the house a home is having difficulties completing the most familiar tasks? The most organized aging friend is having trouble misplacing things and losing the ability to retrace their steps? These are just a few of the signs that something may not be well with your parent, partner, spouse, loved one or friend.
Well, not every one of these necessarily means that something is wrong; we all lose ability as we age, we all get forgetful, but when this becomes more and more noticeable it may be time to have a difficult conversation about the future of your aging loved one.
I know the struggle of having aging parents. I know the ups and downs and difficult conversations that need to take place. I’m often moved by the “Love you forever” story by Robert Munsch, where throughout the book the mother takes care of the son through every stage of his life and always refers to him as “my baby you’ll be”, until the last page where the son is holding the mother and singing to her. I’ve always thought this was such a good representation of life and aging, but as I get older I realized that I would take on any role I needed to for my parents, but that I would always be their daughter and as much as I wanted to be their caregiver, I wanted more to be their daughter.
If you are caring for an aging loved one, you may feel overwhelmed as you juggle your own life; work, parenting, running your household, and their care. Nearly a third of American adults spend an average of 20 hours per week caring for an aged, disabled, or chronically ill family member. It can be tough and full of feelings of being overwhelmed, of sadness, of confusion, and can turn into feelings of resentment.
We believe that no one should have to experience treading that kind of water of keeping your own life in order, while providing care, while still maintaining your special relationship with your loved one. Maintaining that balance for too long will eventually take its toll on your emotional and physical health.
So how do you know you are making the right decision for your parents? Well, we want you to know that you are not alone and that we have the knowledge and resources to support you and your family on this journey.
Home care is really a unique service and most people know nothing about it until the last minute when they need a solution, making decisions usually under stress, under a tight timeline, and feeling overwhelmed with trying to do the right thing.
As your loved one progresses through their particular illness or the aging process, their needs continually will evolve as will your responsibility and time commitment with them. Serving seniors is our passion. Allowing us to develop a care plan for your loved one is something we hold in the highest regard. The beautiful lives that brought us into the world and shaped us to who we are and who our families are. The traits and traditions they have imprinted on us, their legacies, and all the wonderful memories they have given, deserve to be honoured in their later life when they need us.
Becoming a caretaker for our parents can be one of the most rewarding and life-changing times in life; let us help maintain that special relationship you have so that you can choose the level of caretaker you want to be, and we can support you with the rest.
We understand and have walked the same path as you. You still have lots of memories to share and make with your aging loved one and we want that to be the focus of your care.